Selfish persons aren’t capable of loving others, but they are not capable of enjoying themselves either. Being selfish isn’t good but being self-centered is worse since you never learn to listen to other people.
Everybody deserves to a chance to reach a fantasy no matter how impossible it looks. However, Something is living in my attic some people feel that they might not be able to reach them and that’s why they save all their resources to themselves just to ease some of the insecurities. A good deal of selfish individuals have unmet expectations that make them feel insecure resulting to dread of trust and lack of control over their lives.
If someone doesn’t care about anyone else, he/she is not likely to be very responsive to you in any way besides evaluating how you can meet their his/her needs. Selfish individuals are mean and they’re good for nothing. They are concerned only about themselves. They’re expecting people to reach out or act in a manner that suits them.
Understanding doesn’t mean letting them off the hook. But if you’re able to get behind the behavior and discover what motivates it, you will have a better chance of responding in a manner that might make it less powerful. We often make assumptions about what motivates people but those assumptions are often inaccurate. These individuals make decisions that benefit them. They do not give a damn what the effect this could have on others.
Dealing with such people isn’t simple but the first step in dealing with them effectively is to better understand what causes them to act that way in the first location. Do not take them personally. A selfish person always puts his/her own needs first. The problem arises only when we do things for ourselves at the expense of others. When you make life hard for other people to satisfy your own ends, then that type of selfishness is the selfishness that you want to avoid. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. But thinking about yourself is selfish.
At present, it has become increasingly important that people consider themselves before others. It turns into a status quo and the basis of the society. There’s absolutely not any need to be distressed by the situation of the modern society. Be sure you develop a personality that may adjust well to demands of the generation.
In my case, its good to be a little selfish, instead of being completely selfless. When you are overly concerned with others and help them when they are in need, you create them parasite and dependent on you. More likely than not, when you need help, nobody gives a damn about you.
So, instead of being mad about people’s selfish behavior accept that it’s essential for survival as long as it doesn’t cause any type of harm to any anybody including you!